The art of releasing judgement doesn't happen over night. This practice is an ongoing shift that needs to be made only when one is willing to make it.
Talking shit was an activity I used to participate in heavily. I don't even know why I was always gossiping, but it just seemed like a main part of my day to day conversations. Recently, I began shifting my own personal energy and stopped this horrid habit. Studies show that people bond more over what they hate vs. what they love. So, if two people realize they have the same hatred for a particular person, they instantly become legitimate best friends. It's kinda weird when you think about it. How did we grow up in a world where people talk SO MUCH SHIT?
Today, we are living in a world that needs this shift desperately. It's time for us to see the BIGGER PICTURE. It's time for us to STOP deflecting insecurities onto others. It's time to CELEBRATE differences. It's time to stop saying shit just because you may think it sounds "cool." It's time to LOVE. It's time to SUPPORT one another. It's time to BE CAUTIOUS of when you are gossiping. It's time to RELEASE.
1) RECOGNIZE - Any time you find yourself in a state of judgement, YOU'RE ON THE RIGHT TRACK! Just getting yourself to recognize when you're judging someone else is huge. Some people continue to judge and think it's ok. Which it may be for them. But if you can reach this level of self awareness, you're already helping the world.
2) REPEAT - If you find yourself talking poorly about someone else, but realize you're feeling a sense of guilt about what you may have said, REPEAT IT. Repeat what you said out loud in a different way, the way you want it to be heard. For example:
"I actually can't believe how fucking annoying she was being last night. Holy shit I was having the worst second hand embarrassment for her."
*realizes that was maybe a little harsh and wildly unnecessary*
"Ok I take that back. I'm being dramatic lol. She’s actually not all bad and I feel badly that I even judged in the first place.”
If you can come to this level of self awareness, you are on the right track. The more you begin recognizing how your judgements are being verbalized, you'll stop verbalizing them all together. And once you stop verbalizing them, they won't even be apart of your internal dialogue.
3) REMEMBER - This is important. Please remember you literally have NO IDEA what some people are going through. If you happen to see a new picture of someone on Insta and it may appear that they've lost a significant amount of weight, DO NOT JUDGE. We often think we know everything about a person when we don't. That person could be going through a health trauma, a mental issue, or simply have just been exercising much more. Pointing out the person's size and judging how they got to that size is a judgement.
There's a huge difference between judgement and observations. Observations would be simply noticing that the person lost weight. Judging is when you not only notice the weight loss, but you begin sharing it with friends and start coming up with different theories as to how they got to that size.
There are tons of topics we can talk about instead of talking about each other. If you feel uncomfortable when people are talking shit, don't participate just because you might feel you "have to." We all have a choice. Be exemplary and be the light.
Love & Light,