Whether you're an app user, a hopeless romantic, a frequent bar hopper hoping to find true love while taking back a shot of tequila, or just someone who wants to be "set up," it's time to narrow down what you're looking for in a partner. It doesn't matter the route you take to find that special someone, but what does matter is your ability to identify if that person is a good match.
I can't even count the amount of times I've heard a friend say to me, "I wasted my time." More often than not, we tend to give people too many chances even when we KNOW the person isn't a perfect match for us. Why do we do this? Why do we think we have to "tolerate" certain qualities in people? Why do we think that there's no such thing as the "perfect person."
I'm here to fill you in on a little secret... YOU CAN FIND THE PERFECT MATCH.
You must be saying to yourself, "this girl is full of shit."
Thanks but I'm not.
I am here to share with you a very useful tip in finding a perfect partner. Ready for it?
MAKING A LIST OF NONNEGOTIABLES
Take out a sheet of paper and a pen as we embark on this beautifully shallow and important journey to find love. Begin to make a list of everything you want in a partner. EVERY SINGLE DETAIL. Don't forget to note if you want them to look a certain way, have a certain career, live in a particular state, have specific qualities, etc. The more specific you get with this list, the better.
This list of non-negotiable qualities allows you to put into the Universe what you're looking for in a partner. This exercise is an awesome form of manifesting. The Secret says, "Thoughts become things." If you are able to identify everything you want in a partner, it allows you to dismiss the people in your life that don't have the qualities on your list. You must be patient, and you must have faith, but you WILL find that person if you refer to your list.
Now imagine how amazing it'll feel once you go on a date, go home and check your list, and notice that the person has every quality.
Love & Light,